A Ministry of the Evangelical Covenant Church.
In a healthy relationship, individual are together because they:
•Have a common vision
You both have the same idea of what the relationship means and where you would like it to go.
•Share basic values
You may not agree on everything, but you have similar spiritual and family values.
•Have the other person’s interests at heart
You are not together for selfish reasons.
•Are strong individuals
You are together because you want to be—not because you fear being alone, want sex or seek revenge (on an “ex” partner, for example).
Try not to compare your relationship to your parents’ or to media images you see on TV or at the movies. Have confidence in your own feelings and talk to trusted family members and friends.
When we fight, we tend to blame each other.
I can’t tell my partner what I really think and feel.
My partner is jealous of my career or friends.
I often feel lonely in my relationship.
I have been physically hurt by my partner slapped, kicked, punched, etc.
My partner usually cuts me off when I talk.
I do most of the work—chores, childcare, etc.).
My partner often verbally abuses me—name-calling, making threats, etc.
My partner cheats on me.
My partner is the one who needs to change not me.
If you answer YES to one or more of these statements your relationship needs help.